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Village Life: Values, Traditions and Lessons.

Villages are not always synonymous with poverty and inconvenience. They are rich and interesting in many ways. Just take a pause, stare at them and listen to the loudness of their serenity.

Village Life

Harmony with Nature.

Life in villages seems to be in no hurry. It takes its time and lives to its full. It remains in conformity with nature and environment.

Village life sets your body clock to resonate with the planetary schedules. Simplicity here, transcends into cosmological scale, where you find village people invariably stuck to ‘Early to Bed, Early to Rise’ kind of routine.

A farmer in steppes of East Europe has to rise at the crack of dawn to bring his cattle, poultry birds out of shelter. They have to feed and milk their animals at right time and have to move to their fields with their tools.

Similarly a farmer in Gangetic plains of India retires to bed around 8 P.M. and wakes up next morning well before sunrise. He has to clean the mangers of his cattle, put their feed in, and mop the cattle shed. Fresh cow dungs have to be removed to some other assigned place, where these either have to be converted in to cow dung cakes or have to be stored for getting them decomposed in to manures. Dried cow dungs cake are emergency cooking fuel for farmers, especially during rainy season.

Fishing villages in coastal areas have their day and nights guided by many factors related to oceanic environment. They need to know the dynamics of home water. They need to know the behaviour of fish they are targeting. They need to love being outside and love the nature.

Shepherds in mountains graze their herds for a few hours in the morning, then resting through the high heat of the noon, and then grazing for the few hours in the evening.

Thus every activity in village, is in absolute conjunction with the diurnal and nocturnal attributes of the environment. Man, birds, cattle, ants, insects, flowers, dew, all are time bound in their activity.

In cities man has interfered too much with nature. Children of metro cities have no experience how dark starry nights look like. Or, how calm and soothing it feels while lying on the roofs under moonlight and staring at the moon. Glow of bulbs and neon signs have disturbed the darkness regime of night sky and this has also confused the birds whose biological responses are sensitive to sky light.

Also read: Life in a village of India.

Villages Are the Places, Where Life Values Were Born and Established.

village Life
Village Life

Based on local resources, geography and climate, people of villages have their different occupations. Weavers, shepherds, farmers, artisans all complement each other by their specialized services. These village based occupations have inspired many quotes which depict the values and essence of life.

Quotes related to Farmers:

“When tillage begins, other arts follow.”

“A farmer is a magician, who produces money from the mud.”

“Those too lazy to plough in right season, will have no food at the harvest.”

Quotes related to milkman:

“If not milked regularly, cow looses its milk.”

“I hear the rattle of milkman on the stair. Sure that is music,”

“Democracy means that if doorbells ring in the early morning, it is likely to be milkman.”

Quotes related to fisherman:

“Many men go fishing all their lives without knowing that it is not fish they are after.”

Quotes related to weaver:

“A good life is like weaving. Energy is created in tension. The struggle, the pull and the tug are everything.”

Quotes related to artisans:

“Every man is artisan of his own future.”

“There is something deeply satisfying in shaping something with your own hands.”

“Art is not a handicraft, it is the transmission of the feeling the artist has experienced.”

Quotes related to pottery:

“Expectations are like fine pottery. The harder you held them, the more likely they were to crack.”

“Time is clay; make something.”

“Clay is molded to make a vessel, but the utility of the vessel lies in the space where there is nothing.”

At villages, You Realise The Mother Son Relation Between Earth and Man.

Village Life
Village Life

Spend a few days in a village, and realisation will dawn upon you that earth plays a role of mother for man. Earth provides cradle for the growth and development of man and civilization. German thinker E.C. Semple explains this relationship in beautiful words, “Man is product of earth’s surface… earth has mothered him, fed him, set him tasks, directed his thoughts, confronted him with difficulties that have strengthened his body and sharpened his wits.”

Thus villages are places where environment with all its odds and opportunities becomes very much visible and discernible. You can analyse here that the particular course of action taken by the man is in accordance with the hints whispered by the mother earth in to his ears!

Villages Tell You How Giving Away Is a Bliss.

Village Life
Village Life

Village life is full of examples of cooperative, collective and sharing approach. Pleasure of giving away is many fold higher than the pleasure of owning.

Trees bear fruits, but they are available to all. cow’s udder is full of milk, but cow itself doesn’t consume it. Fields have food grains, but these are meant for feeding millions of people. Clouds carry water which is utilised by the earth. Village people grow with many such examples present in nature. And knowingly or unknowingly all these lessons get registered in their subconscious.

Gary Bebout of Knox county ( Ohio, USA ), describes the unwritten etiquette of the county when he says, “if someone is sick, the neighbours get together and do their crops for them.”

Village people of India, often share their first round of produce especially fruits, vegetables and even the cow milk ( after new calf is born ), with their neighbours.

Villages Teach You The Lessons Of Sustainable Development.

Urban culture especially in developing countries, has lost its respect for nature. Modern man has blindly exploited the natural resources beyond their capacity to regenerate.

Village people not only try to live in harmony with nature, but they respect the nature. They feel the pain of mother earth. They leave their lands fallow to recuperate its fertility. They allocate lands for pastures. They use their forests and water resources within sustainable limits. Similarly a concerned fisherman attaches importance to selective harvesting, i.e. keeping only what they can eat, and release some of the better fish for future generation of fish and people.

The famous Hindi novelist Munshi Premchand writes, “Indian peasant is too nature fearing. He perceives failure of rains, occurrence of flood and droughts as punishment for any of his wrong doings.” Such ethical values in village life encourage them to adopt sustainable living approach.

It Is Villages, Where Festivals Were Born and Nurtured.

Popular festivals of any country have their origin in agricultural activities in villages and rural setting.

If you categorize at more deeper level, the festivals in India like Lohri, Makar Sankranti, Pongal, Vasant Panchami, Holi, Baisakhi these all are predominantly related to celebration of onset of particular agricultural season, advent of new crops and its successful harvesting etc.

Similarly, in Portugal, they have year round cultural activity and festivals which often revolve around food. These are festivals of bread, olive oil, garlic, cheese and wine. On these occasions groups perform traditional dance and songs. St. John festival at Porto, dates back to 14th century. This most popular food festival is observed to honour the Sun God and to celebrate the year’s good harvest.

So, when the nature showers foodgrains in the fields of farmers, or bring huge catches to the nets of fisherman at particular time of year, or when cheese and wine reach their perfect flavour and aroma, it is time to celebrate. The harvest brings immense pleasure and contentment to the hearts of the family members of these farmers, planters, fishermen, and dairy owners. They feel rewarded , blessed and exalted.

Celebrations at villages are not driven by the lust or luxury, but are driven by the exhilaration of hard work and diligence. Children here, also learn the lessons and traditions of their parental occupation. They realise that real happiness emanates from the harmony between man and nature. And it endures.

Village Life Keeps You Inspiring and Learning.

French thinker Elisee Reclus, had a sharp eye on deplorable aspect of materialistic culture of urban life. He, in extreme cases, viewed cities, “where all grace and poetry have disappeared from landscape, imagination dies out, the mind is impoverished, and a spirit of routine and servility takes possession of the soul.”

Village life on the other hand, is for many reasons preferable to the life of cities. Village life pushes you for many physical works. You need to learn taking care of your animals, your trees, your water bodies and land. Eventually you find many ideas, you never knew!

You will work with soil, will hear the melody of swaying plants, will hear the rustle of leaves, will understand the season’s role in raising crops. And eventually, you will begin to clearly understand the metamorphosis of all this work culture in to folk songs, festivals, tradition and culture of that region.

Villages Teach You Social Cohesion.

In village life you must have to respect and accept the culture of social cohesion. Here there is no place for lifestyle related diseases like loneliness, depression, blood pressure, sugar etc. Everyone is your family. You know every person in village. If you fall sick, every person in village will talk and ask about your health. Guest to a family becomes guest of entire village. This is very much true and noticeable in oriental world, which I belong to.

In villages of India, you will find a large verandah in the front portion of house which has enough sitting space for eight to ten people. This place is used for relaxing or for spending the leisure hours with neighbours and other people. A range of topics are discussed here related to day to day life, agriculture, market, politics, or references from some epic. Many old persons interact here with children by telling them stories in the early hours of night. This reminds of a sharp contrast with cities where they have a king size bathroom, symbolising privacy and preference for personal life, where as village people have king size verandahs symbolising importance of community life.

Finally…

In villages, you can not remain aloof. And this adds many dimensions to your personality. Here you learn creating, protecting, preserving, foreseeing, caring, sharing, intermingling. Village life is very practical and direct. Here only, you can catch the true glimpse of a region’s culture, unfiltered and in raw.

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Chhath Puja.

Primary rituals related to chhath Puja 2022 are currently in progress. Chhath puja is the grand festival of mass faith. It is a 4 days festival, and mainly concentrated in most populous states of Bihar, Eastern U.P. and Jharkhand. Thus a substantial portion of India’s population observes this festival with great fervour and reverence. This festival is acknowledgement of the love and blessing, the nature has bestowed upon the human civilisation. It requires purity, simplicity, inclusiveness, social cohesion, and community participation. It is a festival of Hindu religion.

Chhath Puja.
Chhath Puja.

Goddess Chhathi Maiya.

Chhath festival is worship of God Sun (along with his wives Usha and Pratyusha) and Goddess Shashthi (popularly called Chhathi Maiya). Goddess Shashthi is the sixth of NavDurga.

Important Dates ( Year 2022).

  • 28th October 2022: Kartik Shukla Chaturthi : Nahay – Khay.
  • 29th October 2022: Kartik Shukla Panchmi : Kharna.
  • 30th October 2022: Kartik Shukla Shashthi : Sandhya Arghya.
  • 31st October 2022: Kartik Shukla Saptami : Usha Arghya.

Rituals.

Chhath Puja
Chhath Puja

On the first day of the Chhath Puja devotees take bath in nearby river, pond, or in any local waterbody. In many houses even the meal of the day is also prepared using river water or well water. The meal or ‘the prasad’ includes boiled rice, pulse (gram), and Bottle gourd vegetable.

The meal schedule of the first two days is specially designed to prepare the body to withstand the next 36 hours fasting. Choice of food grains and vegetable is also made very wisefully to help the digestive system getting adjusted impeccably to the requirements of long fasting durations.

Second day of the festival is called Kharna day. Again it is a day long fasting which comes to its end with intake of wheat chapattis, and kheer (Rice pudding), sweetened with jaggery.

On the third day, fasting remains continued, and it comes to its end with offering of milk and water to the rising sun of the 4th day.

Preparation of Prasadam (offerings.)

The prasad is prepared with great care for purity and in conformity to the tradition. For example, in place of mill sugar and sea salt, jaggery and rock salt are used to add sweet and salty flavour respectively. Firewood of mango tree is most desirable as cooking fuel, to be used in earthen stoves.

All kinds of new seasonal fruits, sugarcanes, and other herbs are also included in the prasad. Underlying sense behind including seasonal produce is that whatever new natural produce is available, will first be offered to Sun God as a gesture of thankfulness towards Him. Because without Sun, earth will go lifeless.

Days Go Hectic With Numerous Tasks.

Purity both internal and external is of utmost importance in the Chhath Puja. Wheat is cleaned, washed and dried in the Sun. Drying of wheat in the Sun is given full attention by every family member so as to prevent any of the birds peck at it.

Market of Chhath puja Articles.
Market Of Chhath Puja Articles.

Similarly there are many other cumbersome tasks which keep people busy all 4 days. Arranging firewood, purchasing earthen stoves, earthen wares, and earthen lamps (diyas) from potter, buying bamboo baskets (Daura and Suups) from artisan community, are all very time taking tasks.

People que up at flour mill shops for milling their wheat grains. Flour millers are also very much careful in maintaining cleanliness in their premises. People wash their vehicles to carry and transport the festival related materials.

Families co operate each other in cleaning the nearby river sides and constructing Ghats (flight of steps leading down to river) and decorating them to perform puja over there. This festival mobilizes massive peoples participation for mopping the streets and sprinkling water over pathways.

Devotional Songs: An Essential Part.

Chhath puja.
Chhath Puja.

And when the hard work is done with such devotion and dedication, with hope for wellbeing of family and society, it stirs emotions. And the vibes thus created, are manifested in the form of songs.

Chhath Puja festival has many folk songs associated with it . Devotees sway to the tunes and lyrics of these songs. Their individuality gets fused with the theme of the song.

These songs are related to day to day tale of the life of devotees, their hopes and desires, their gratitude, and wish for complete surrender in the feet of Goddess chhathi Maiya.

Songs mention the things and attributes of the rural life. Kaanch Baans (New Bamboos) , Bahangi ( primitive load carrying device), Suggas (Parrots), stalks of Banana, bunches of Coconut and Guavas , Aanhar Batohiya ( Ignorant wayfarer), emotions of departure when Sun sets, and emotions of waiting for the Sun to rise again, find mention in these songs.

Subject of Some Popular Songs.

The most popular song “kaanch Hi Baans Ke Bahangiya”, is about request of a lady devotee to her husband. She urges her husband to be Bahangi Bearer (kahaar), and carry the loads of offerings made for Chhathi maiya to the ghat at river side. She also calls her Dewar (Brother in Law) for help. She expresses disgust at the ignorance of the wayfarer (Anhar Batohiya), who doesn’t know that Bahangi is meant for Chhathi Maiya , who resides at the Ghat (River side).

Another song is ” Naariyal Je Farela Ghawad Se”. It is a story about how a defiant parrot is punished for pecking at the coconut, Guava and other fruits, which were to be offered to Chhathi Maiya. However, finally prayer is made to forgive and heal the defiant parrot to bring solace to its female parrot companion, who is wailing so inconsolably.

Song ” Kerwa Ke Paat Par Ugelan Surajmal” , is sung by veteran folk singer Sharda Sinha. The song in its various stanzas, puts forth the glimpses of rising Sun through the leaves of Banana , Guava and Coconut.

Here the lady devotee is being asked that for whom is she observing this fasting (vrat) ? The devotee answers, “like yours, me also have my son, and this fasting is meant for his wellbeing.”

In reply to another question, she says, ” like yours, me also have my husband, and this fasting is meant for him.”

When again asked, she replies this time, “like yours, I also have my daughter, and this fasting is meant for her wellbeing.”

Chhath puja lays stress in removing gender bias from society. Here along with sons , daughters are also considered equally important. One song is very famous for these lines: ” Runki Jhunki Betiya Mangila, Padhal Panditawa Damad, Hey Chhathi Maiya!” ( I urge you O! Mother Chhathi, to bless me with chirpy daughters and scholar son in law) .

So is the greatness of the Indian Hindu women, who keeps praying for the wellbeing of both families, her husband’s as well as that of her parents’.

Conclusion.

Chhath puja is a grand occasion of devotion and finding solace in complete surrender to the divinity.

It is the moment to express gratitude to the benevolence of nature that is too motherly. Sea of devotees gathered near river sides appears to find place in the vast embrace of mother nature.

With their folded hands and joined palms, with their moist eyes looking up to the Sun at the horizon, everyone longs for the blessings of Sun God and Goddess Shashthi (popularly called Chhathi), for the safety and prosperity of their progeny and expresses gratitude to the deities for their blessings.

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4 Important Lessons Of Life In A Morning Street.

June morning in Siliguri. A city in the foothills of Himalayas, in the Indian state of West Bengal. When the entire Northern Great Plains of India is swept by heat waves around this time, a cool wet climate hugs this place. And this is largely due to its location in Himalayan foothills combined with the maritime influence which it enjoys from the east. Like other cities, Streets in this city are also full of many life lessons to its connoisseurs.

The place belongs to my in-laws also, Where I was invited to attend a family function. Next morning I hurried to ATM to collect some cash for my return journey needs back home. Heading for the ATM point and then taking a return, was all going in very usual course, until an idea hit me to take notice of and record the life that was slowly and gently unfolding on this morning street. I was stunned to notice the volumes of life lessons and the extra ordinary secrets of life in its fold!

Lesson Of Cleanliness.

I felt like different departments of life getting ready to start this day afresh and with all promptness. Municipality truck and the cleaning staff had rolled their sleeves up for removing the garbage out of the city. And the lessons that were filtering out ranged from worldly context to the philosophical discourse!

Cleaning of external world is as important as cleaning of internal world.

While on one hand the scene cried loud that only by cleaning our streets, roads, city and villages, rivers and streams, forests and mountains, and oceans and sky, we can save this planet and can keep the life going on here.

Implicitly it leaves the message that we can prevent our relationships from being poisoned, by flushing out the mental garbage ( anger, arrogance, jealousy ) inside us. Regular inflow of pious thoughts of tolerance and forgiveness, courage and boldness, positivity and morality helps a lot in avoiding such situations.

Looking and realising the kind of work cleaning staff were doing, made me feel why our present Prime Minister suggests to hold these persons in high esteem. Though they are paid for their services, but it is a bitter truth that their service is priceless !

Lessons Of Coordination.

The trucks and night buses had arrived and the supplies to the city were being shifted to trolleys, and Rickshaws. From here these supplies will be sent to vegetable and fish markets as soon as possible so as to make them available in consumer’s kitchen fresh. This whole activity reminds how much efforts it takes to bring food in your plate. we should analyse them and realise that a proper system of coordination is necessary to achieve great community goals.

Coordinated Efforts Make The Life Easy.

Lessons About Value For Time.

Ice blocks on a mini truck reminds me of the fact that many things in life are time factored. Loss of time causes loss of utility. Thus time is the most valued thing in life. These ice slabs will certainly have to be utilised before they are melted in to water. And yes, on a lighter note, it has truly been said about life that, ” Life is like an ice cream. Enjoy it before it melts.” And to quote Harvey Mackay, ” Time is free but it is priceless. You can’t own it but you can use it.”

Like Ice, Life Is Also Time Factored.

Lessons About Self Care.

Morning time is also time of walking, exercising, and other personal care. Hair cutting salons in streets reminded that while giving a lot of your attention to external world, you should spend a bit on yourself also. Better care and grooming gives you an impressive look. Morning time is also time of taking breakfast and to give our metabolism its required. Street vendors sale variety of breakfast that suit to your taste and needs.

Self Care Is Important.

Lessons About Having Desire To Achieve.

As this writing is based purely on practical experience, this whole exercise comes as an opportunity to realise that you can get the things, if you really want them to have. Keep your eyes open. Opportunities have to be unveiled and acted upon.

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Meaning And Lessons From The World Of Gifts.

The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away.

Pablo Picasso.

That Gift Of Glass Bead Necklace!

We were just to leave this mall in the city of Virat Nagar, Nepal, when my uncle coincidently met one of his acquaintance Mr. Upadhyay.

Mr. Upadhyay, a very humble and cordial person requested us to visit his residence in the city which was not too far from this mall. Mr. Upadhyay was not ready to hear anything less than our approval to his request. He knew that it was very occasional for us to visit Nepal from our home place in India.

we became very much delighted to meet his wife, his son, his daughter-in-law, and his grand child at home. We were touched by their generosity and hospitality. Mr. Upadhyay, who had retired from a government job in India, talked at length about his post retirement life, his daily routine and some philanthropic work and related activities he was engaged in. We were very much impressed to know about his hobby of playing guitar. Very engaging and reciprocating talks that followed, made us feel having good time together. Almond sprinkled sweet fragrant porridge and snacks further enlivened us. And this is how human interactions and feel of togetherness builds up and grows!

At the time of saying goodbye to each other’s family, Mrs. Upadhyay approached my wife and gifted her a beautiful necklace of green beads made in glass – a Nepali tradition to express their affection and honour for the receiver and her family. This gift of necklace in colourful glass beads has turned in to souvenir of this visit which was so simple and yet so valuable and memorable.

Meaning of a Genuine Gift.

Since time immemorial, human civilisation across the globe have the tradition of gift giving and receiving. Leaving aside the angles of sycophancy and flattery, a genuine gift symbolises the feelings of caring, sharing, thanksgiving, togetherness, concern for motivation, mark of loyalty, and sometimes disguised altruism. Gifts, though simple physical objects, become embodiment of multiple abstract things _ affection, gratitude, culture, tradition, sense of bonding and togetherness and of nostalgic moments.

Gifts Act As Time machine.

Gifts act as Time Machine that sends us back in time to revisit and live those moments again in which it was presented. Old memories, and the whole sequence of related events of past begin to unfold before you. This transportation of non-physical you, relieves you of your present. Certainly it is good for your mental health and also makes you feel happy, connected and cared.

Gifts Help You Decipher the Giver’s Perception About You.

Gifts symbolise both the Giver’s self and the Giver’s perception about the receiver. Gifts provide you ample clue about whether the Giver takes you lightly, casually or has true feeling for you. So isn’t it great about the gifts that they hint about your position in the Giver’s scheme of things? And in the same way they alert you, when you are the giver!

Through Gifts We Can See Spectrum Of Cultural Diversity.

The culture of a geographical region helps choose such physical objects and follow customary practices, that are considered a perfect way of gift presentation. Observation of gift giving customs and related taboos, is a nice way to usher into the colourful cultural traditions of human civilisation across the globe.

Americas, Europe, And Australia.

In USA gift packs are well decked and decorated. But in countries like Spain, and France a simple modest wrapping is OK. practice of ribbon decoration is also very much in vogue for packing. Use of red, golden, silver coloured papers are very popular. A little card is attached to say who it is from?

In Germany it is considered bad luck to give baby gifts before its birth. Similarly giving flowers in even numbers is taboo in many European countries.

In Greek culture it requires the receiver to reciprocate with something of similar value. However this tradition exists almost in every culture more or less.

In western world the gift items normally include chocolates, toys, cloths, flowers, wine and sometimes meat products. However fine quality chocolates are signature gifts of Belgium. French are known for gifting perfume and wine. Spaniards however love to gift their near and dear ones cheese, cured meat and wine. Swiss watches are coveted gift items around the world.

East Asia, South Asia, Middle East.

Gift giving practices in East Asia ( China, Japan, S. Korea ), and South Asia ( India, Nepal, Sri Lanka, Bhutan) are very much tradition based. If you are invited to someone’s home or a banquet, you should go there but not empty handed. Even a modest gift in your hand is a symbol of expressing gratitude and thanking the host for their hospitality.

In South Asia gifts are given in the hands of the head of the family or to a person deputed for the purpose. This hints towards their culture of joint family and towards the importance they attach to their family elders. However if the occasion is related to child, then, gift is given in child’s hand. Gifts are often opened in private. Gift of Shawl, Saree, jewelry, and sweets find prominent place in the list of gift item options. Nepalese people put decorated cloth material across the shoulders of the receiver as expression of their honour towards the receiver.

In Arabia, a traditional perfume called ‘Oud’ ( a distillation of Aloes Wood ), is the much appreciated gift form. It is said that in Europe a man shows his status by his tailoring, but in Arabia a man does so by the scent he wears!

Some Superstitions About the Gift Giving.
  • Red packaging is considered perfect on auspicious occasions.
  • Black cloths, sharp objects, white flowers are generally avoided as gift.
  • Number 8 is considered auspicious in China.
  • In Indian culture, cash are also given along with the main gifts. Here amount of cash must end with 1, which symbolises continuity of progress, happiness and prosperity.

Human feelings are so complex. Gifts are embodiment of distinct feelings and experience. They are like beautiful trees on the unsteady path of life!

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Lessons From Birds.

A Sunday afternoon of early summer.

I woke up after having a deep afternoon sleep, walked through the corridor to reach our common sitting place where my Mom announced with playful smile, “today pigeons have had enough to their fill.”

Receiving these words in my ears, sleepy me strove to awake fully to take notice of what she meant. Meanwhile she went on explaining further, “Pigeons today freely enjoyed the wheat grains spread in the Sun, before them, unattended for long hours.”

Though the information given by the mother was about the loss, these birds had caused to us, but also inherent in her voice was the satisfaction that the pigeons enjoyed much and had a lot of fun while picking this vast spread of wheat grains.

From time immemorial, these birds are co-sharers of the human food grains, without caring for the economics behind it.

I remember my childhood days , when our house campus had enough free space. There my Grandmother used to sow Maize plants during the season along with other seasonal vegetable shrubs and creepers.

When the Maize plants bore new corn wrapped inside the multilayer green husk, the Parrots soaring across the airspace, caught the glimpse of these corn ears. Though I had seen many parrots in cage, but watching the flocks of parrots alighting on the maize ears of my garden, tear away the green husk cover, and then pecking at the sweet corn grains inside, was like something extraterrestrial for me! Beautiful parrots with myriad shades of green, yellowish green, and in between; their bright red curved beaks, and the ocean blue ring like formation around their smooth velvety neck left me spell bound!

Despite my granny’s strict instructions to prevent these parrots from damaging the corn, I gladly would late it happen, and, noticed the activities of these innocent beautiful parrots from a distance without disturbing them in their enterprise! The racing of these parrots across the garden was scene worth millions, for the child that I was.

Today when most of the free space of my campus has been lost to commercial use, I wish I had a mobile phone at that time, so that I could capture those glimpses of beautiful parrots to revisit them now. Today the house campus has concrete construction all over, sparing a patch of land, occupied by two lovely Mango trees, one Parijat tree, extensive Rose bed and lawn grass.

Until 15-20 years back, Sparrows were very common to our courtyard near kitchen windows, where they could find eatables. These small tiny lives would always alight in folk and their chirping sounds filled the air with energy and bustle.

My sister Guria, had special affinity for Gauraiyaas ( Name for Sparrows in Hindi). She would sprinkle rice on the floor of courtyard and would wait for their arrival. She used to say , “these Gauraiyaas (Sparrows) are my sisters. Just see how letters in their name resemble with that of mine!”

Once we got a chance to watch and see a Nightingale couple raising their family in our house. Our house had a big hall which was not properly complete yet, and was meant for renting it out to some office in future.

The hall was on the first floor which opened to north with its four giant sized arched gates. six foot high windows were planned in its two walls to the east and to the west. The hall was almost a doorless shelter, through which birds moved across freely.

My mother was very quick to notice that a pair of Nightingale birds was frequently approaching the dark foliage of Dracaena plant, which we had grown in an earthen pot in this hall, and was surveying its surrounding. Soon they started the construction of a new nest amidst the branches of this plant. The two bird architects built a small but awesome dreamhouse for their coming little guests.

Dracaena plant

To our great surprise the nest was aerodynamically stable. It also dawned upon us that the selection of this dark hued plant was an strategic choice to provide camouflage against strangers and possible predators.

At some opportune time the female nightingale laid eggs in the nest which she and her partner had woven so meticulously with great perseverance. Within two or three days, new creatures came out of the shell. This was great news for us also. Everyone of us couldn’t wait to take glimpse inside the nest.

It was very fulfilling and surprising to see how these Nightingale birds with food for their newborns in their beaks took a sudden change of route and would sit and wait when they saw any of our family members coming in their way. Even we also were fully conscious to allow free and fearless passage to these parent birds impatient to feed their newborns. My father took special care for their protection from cats. I don’t remember exactly but he had improvised some arrangement with the help of old mosquito net to block the access of cats to this new family.

Gradually both humans and avians of this house developed harmony and cooperation with each other. We were putting to practice the learnt lessons of synergy, cooperation, giving space to each other, feeling happiness in happiness of others and feeling sad when our neighbourhood sinks in some problem.

Within 4 to 5 days these newborns had wings. Now the parents began their training for flying. First day they only became able to come out of the nest, fly up to 4 to 5 foot distance in one go, and then would sit on concrete shelf made in the wall and would relax. I was amazed to feel that how the Invisible Supreme, which we say God, was taking care of all the biochemistry, physical dynamics, psychological settings, and observation and response mechanism in these little new creatures! Here was the place and moment when I could realise that life with all its complexity and simplicity are set on auto pilot mode by that Almighty God, the supreme creator, protector and destroyer!

The next day parents brought them out under open sky, and in next few days they flew towards the bamboo thickets in our backyard, never to come in our notice again.

The new lives thus got well set and adjusted in this endless universe! Their left out nest often reminded us of those unique and special days. The joyful days in fact. We didn’t remove that nest till it got withered itself, lost, and got assimilated into nature, The Mother.

We humans have become too absorbed in ourselves and have grown insensitive to our surrounding. Sparrows and many other birds are now in the list of endangered species and are on the verge of extinction. Thanks to the pollution and radiation caused by mobile towers dotted every where.

Covid times proved great teacher for this human civilisation. Reduction in industrial and transportation activity saw the nature relaxing and reviving. Many children in metro cities experienced the darkness of night sky and cool of moonlit sky. People woke up in the morning to the sounds of chirping birds. For the first time, in these days, birds, butterflies, honeybees realised that this earth, this climate is theirs too!

In this market driven world, can we ever be considerate and generous enough to think about recreating and bringing back the past rich glory of our forests, rivers, and climate? Can we? If we could, we certainly would take steps to restore and rehabilitate our nature, and ofcourse the birds would chirp again !

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Explore The Tiny Pleasures around You.

At more depth of thought, we can find that being happy is an attitude not a situation.

And what is an attitude? Your attitude is created by your own thoughts and of course, you choose your thoughts, on your own.

So, what do you say? Wouldn’t it be a right thing to grab the right attitude and, take notice of countless bliss bubbles floating around? It is just a matter of preparing yourself to set your mind towards identifying the tiny little happiness scattered all around you.

While preparing this article, I have just come across an article published in local newspaper, which talks about a sculptor named Sila Santosh, from the state of Kerala – the southern most Indian state, full of natural bounty, rich biodiversity, and is abode to many medicinal and cosmetic herbs.

Sila Santosh finds happiness in sculpture. He has transformed his this happiness source as his career, which further multiplies his happiness.

In the township of Adoor ( Nearly 200 km away from Thiruananthapuram, the state capital), he has built an unique house which fills the visitor with bliss and comfort, the moment he steps in. Spread in 200 sq.ft. , this house is made out of mud which is treated with fibres and extracts of 65 types of local herbs diffusing mixed and distinct aroma in the air inside. Apart from its cool and ecofriendly properties, this house for its creator is the house of his happiness which he identified, visualized and translated on the ground.

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Thus you have to trace and search your happiness on your own. There is no readymade prescription for it, but it is not so difficult either. Just sit with a pen and paper, prepare your list of those little things which you love to do comfortably and feel the bliss internally while doing this.

The list that appears is amazing. You can not believe, you have a whole lot of things to make you happy and feel energized. Depending upon the mental construct, one may get interested in gardening, birds watching, night sky watching, photography, cleaning, creating some useful articles out of broken tiles, waste timber pieces, broken earthen wares, pebbles etc. People make gift items out of rags, dried flower petals, dried leaves and stems of local vegetation and experience the contentment of being a creator.

Further, writing the experiences related to relationships, travel, and your observations of culture of some alien land and society, unfolds many new doors of learning and opportunity, you will not believe, you have discovered all this while writing. Amazing things come up if the work in hand is happiness driven.

Making a roof top garden of your choice, sipping lemon tea or some energy drink by the side of your big flower pot and tuning in your favorite number will make your mood upbeat. Myriads of such small happiness, bubble around you. Collect them to suit your mood and time.

Personally me, I like to stare at the nature’s richness around my place. Watching my works in garden, watching the arrival of butterflies and birds to my plants, staring at and taking snaps of garden during suitable day light is great pleasure for me. Sowing seeds, sprinkling water on seed bed, and then on one fine morning, watching the small sprouts peeping through the soil to the vast universe unfolding before them, is the experience which words can not describe.

I stare to my fill at the interlocked canopies of tall trees around my house. Canopy of lofty coconut trees in my neighbor’s garden also adds to the panorama of my little garden. Mists of winter or cloudy weather of rainy season adds further to my pleasure of spending time in the garden. only I can know the volumes nature speaks to me here!

Life is made up of countless small pleasures and small accomplishments. Satisfaction of creating happy moments in family, the contentment of helping a needy person, promoting and buying the goods from your local artisan etc. are all the opportunities that credit substantially to your ” happiness balance”. Happiness may look small to some, but you have to feel it in a big way in your thoughts. These small happiness moments if relished frequently, increase the level of a feel good hormone called Dopamine in your blood. It is no less a magic of nature that enhances the longevity of man.

So why crying for big pleasures – getting rich, getting promotion, buying a house, etc. which come too infrequently, unlike the tiny pleasures which are always near you!

Think happy, be happy.

just interact with nature, feel happy.
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Do You Know Choice Of Words Tell Story Of Your Present And Past Times?

Words have many things to notice about. Many great quotes on words have been made like, “Words can be forgiven but not forgotten”, and many more like this are worth noticing.

However the choice of words that is made during talks, speak volumes about the user’s regional, social, economic and educational conditions.

I have realised this correlation more often when I come across many such people, belonging to different regions and social strata.

Words Reflect your Present Times.

Covid pandemic has changed our lives in many ways. Knowingly, unknowingly many words associated with this pandemic has become part of our subconscious.

My niece was playing ‘Antyakshari’ ( a game of forming words that are linked end-wise by the same letter and is a very popular time-pass indoor game among the children of South Asia.), with her younger brothers and elders of the family.

Every participant has to speak a word which was to start with the last letter of the word, spoken previously by the another participant.

” ‘I’ for Isolation ward”, she replied back. I turned to her in surprise at such choice of word from her mouth! Soon realisation dawned upon me that how this Covid pandemic has added these medical terms in to common parlance. This word once again reminded me about how deep is the problem the whole humanity is into.

Another incident related to the choice of words by the children is, when I had been to one of my acquaintances where father of children was an officer in police. The children were playing thief-police game.

In this game, children on their respective turn, had to play the role of police officer, his driver, constable and thief.

I was not very far from their place of playing. Actually there was a splendid campus in which a thatched outhouse was built for the visitors to sit. I was just sitting in this outhouse and was flipping through the day’s newspaper.

one of the children who was playing the role of cop, spoke in stern loud voice, “bring out five hundred bucks and you will be spared.” And this was repeatedly being said to the child in role of thief, when my ears caught these words.

Surprised me, didn’t take time to figure out the source of such sentences in child’s mind. Thanks to the care taken of by the father police officer to his duty and his professional ethics! Child had well soaked the father’s legacy and the ambience he was into.

Words Indicate Past Times.

In India where we have colonial history, the legacy of English has touched every strata and hierarchy of society.

Presently and specially after year 1991, when India stepped in to era of economic reforms and got integrated with the world market, a good size of young population became skilled in English. Because, you couldn’t dispense with English if you are in search of job in private sector.

But there is also a lighter side to all this. A foreign language spreads by trickle down effect. And in this way, over the decades, many English words have permeated into the communication of people, who are living away from the big cities and Metros.

Such people being poorly informed about the proper pronunciation and usage of words, create strange situation. They just stuff the words in their sentences, force them to produce desired meaning by tone of their voice and by hand gestures. And interestingly, his audience gets it! Being proud of my fellow citizens, I appreciate this spirit of customization!😊

One such my friend was explaining an incident of fire, saying that the leather (he meant ‘skin’) of one family member was badly burnt.

Similarly, one Mr. X is an insurance agent. Whenever his insurance company launches a new policy, he has to find clients to purchase it. He explains his policy by saying, “Our company has lunched (he means ‘launched’) a new policy for…. .” He further continues, “…its silent (he meant ‘salient’) features include… .”

So this is how the use of words speak volumes about person’s personal, regional and historical background.

Since rural India is more or less a male dominated society, most of the government officials are male. And the popular word to address them is “Sir”. Gradually this word “Sir” found place even in the illiterate persons’ vocabulary. They used this word for the persons cutting across the gender.

One such reflection I found in the communication between my Mom and our house sweeper, who served us with great affinity till his last. He often nodded to my Mom’s suggestions by bowing his head in respect, and saying “Ji Sir” ( He meant “yes Ma’am.”).

Thus, to our rural folks, rules of language hardly matters! Words can not disobey them! Before them words are helpless and have to produce meaning what these people have commanded them to do! After all, all this is matter of heart and feelings! Perhaps “Mem Sahab” word used in rural North India is the metamorphosed form of the English word “Madam”. You see even “Madam” couldn’t deny to become “Mem Sahab”!😊

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What Does It Mean “New Year”?

New Year Is Not Merely A Custom.

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Often on the eve of new year we sink ourselves in the same repetitive practice of fireworks, pompous parties, hilarious dances and extending greetings. Of course these activities prove a break in our monotonous routine and infuse energy in us to stride in to next year.

How To Turn “Next Year” Into “New Year”.

The “next” may become “new” also, if the thing called “internal you” also becomes renewed. New is the year when the mindset also replaces its old attire with new. Unless you have a fresh mindset how can you think of new ideas.

My house has a good comfortable lawn in its front. It has an extensive strip of rose bed. Every year in the month of October pruning of its branches is done. This follows replacing exhausted layer of soil with manured soil. Result is luxurious blooming of big sized, deep pink hued thick petaled roses.

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This analogy of renewed soil holds true in case of mindset also. Your mindset also needs to be renewed. This renewal means getting rid of your mental garbage – the garbage of bad old memories, the garbage of bitter experiences, the garbage of fear of failure, etc. Till the shadow of this garbage remains cast on your eyes, you can not have flawless vision to introspect immaculately.

If you want to visualise the life you are living, then just don’t let words interfere. Just visualise, and that too , heartily. Such visualisation will refine your sight. Secondly, live in the moment that is present and current.

Suppose you see a person , see him the way he is at present. If the person is one of your acquaintances , don’t bring the old memory related to him in your mind now. Just see him the way he is now and now. Nothing else. May be you will find in him a new individual.

To see newness in a person, you yourself need to get morphed into a new entity. It is quite an iridescent and interesting experience. By practicing this, you everyday will turn fresh. Thus blending your thought with the present and current, can make it possible for you to make this “next year” a really “new year” too.

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So How To Connect With Present ?

Everyday for sometime give rest to your mind. It is like leaving an agricultural land fallow for sometime so as to recoup its fertility. No TV, no talk with anyone, no reading, only keep sitting with yourself. Just feel and observe the waves of your mind. Soon the waves will calm down and settle down. And you will feel cool, calm, and stable. This coolness will morph you in to a confident and strong person. This will help you feel your days and year, really new.

Positivity: A Life Mantra.

The havoc of Corona pandemic, which had started two years back is still showing no sign of slackening. ‘What does it mean having family and friends in life? ‘How valuable are our owns? ‘What a companion is? ‘Why there is need of life?’ ‘What is needful for life?’ All such fundamental questions were well answered by this pandemic itself. Actually seeing positive aspects of even a deadly pandemic is the kind of attitude we need to be equipped with. So what a better lesson than this would be for this next and new year!

Control Your Mind.

Every time You can not label a person or thing as good or bad. Many times your attitude towards that thing, object or relationship makes them good or bad. And you know it well that your attitude is determined by your mental setting.

Hence control over mind is a lesson of absolute importance, to be learnt and applied for sure, in this next and new year. Prejudiced mind is polluted mind. Its renewal and reboot will make you a fresh new person, who is conditioned enough to make his year – a truly new year!

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Life After Diwali.

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The previous months that rolled by, witnessed the influx of epic festivals like Dussehra, Diwali and Chhath puja on the face of Indian Geography.

Among all these festivals Diwali is celebrated with great grandeur. The entire country with all its cities and villages come alive with dazzling ‘Diyas’ (Earthen lamps), candles, and meticulously carved clay lamps along with tiny electric bulbs. You will fall in love with the stunning Diwali view of Indian cities. Diwali view of beautiful lakes of Udaipur and that of Ganga Ghats of Varanasi will literally leave you speechless. Even in remote Indian villages steady gleam of earthen lamps and the cascading flash of sparklers feels amazing against the splendid darkness of night.

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People wear fresh or new cloths, participate in family puja, burst crackers and share sweets with family, friends and neighbors. Craving for food, fashion and social cohesion runs high at this time. Shoppers dot the market all around these months, exploring the bustling ‘Bazars’ (small markets) in their places.

After the end of the festivals of such caliber , we need to reset our schedules for food intake, physical workouts, and of course, also, having a review of our thought process.

Resetting Our Food Habits.

During Diwali, people enter the festive mode. Parties, late nights, lots of food and drinks make appearance in our lives.

People often can not resist the tempting dishes followed by those “Laddoos” and “Barfis” and tend to cross the boundary line, which can create havoc to or health. During festivities, people binge eat due to social obligation and or due to their emotional connection with food.

Despite all this you can always get back to track by following certain dos and don’ts strictly. Though it is quite a task but not impossible.

1. Get over the guilt of over eating and be indifferent to the temptation of junk food. If you don’t, you know the trap awaits.

2. Choose a natural sugar option such as Grapes, Date, raw Chocolate, to beat the cravings for refined sugar.

3. Never go for skipping meals to make up for those extra calories taken during the festivals. Because you will not only end up feeling hungry and will start over eating again, but, the blood sugar level may also go down and causing harm to your body.

4. Opt for lighter and healthier meals instead. Increase your fibre and protein intake to beat the cravings.

5. Regular schedule for breathing exercises and other physical work outs must be there. Regular morning walk ,if you do, will make you feel lighter.

6. Up your water intake to keep yourself hydrated. It will not only beat the subsequent cravings but also helps flush out the toxins out of your body.

Rekindle Your Social Contacts.

Social cohesion is the glue that holds the community together. Without them community undergoes stagnation and quality of life declines. Festivals provide us ample opportunity for this to happen. Festivals like Diwali set an environment which is full of positivity. people sink their differences and meet and greet each other with warmth. A piece of Diwali greeting message not only melts the bitterness of relationship but also wipes out the ‘lapse-of -communication-guilt”.

So keep this relationship freshener effective all through the year by communicating with all those persons whose affection you won this Diwali.

Take This Lesson: “Lamps kindle Till There Is Oil In Them”.

“Every day is not Diwali day”. So if you blindly spend time money and attention in merry making and in your pursuit for luxury, it will result not only in depletion of your resources but will also harm your health. Diya ( Earthen lamp) urgently suggests – “Till there is oil there is gleam”. So “Cut your coat according to your cloth” and always maintain balance and harmony in your activity and avoid excesses and imbalance.

Burst The Crackers Of Zeal And Enthusiasm.

In Diwali you burst crackers. This symbolizes the burst of passion in us to excel in what we do in our fields. This also suggests to remove the fear of failure in us and tread on our path with heart filled with enthusiasm and hopefulness.

Just Decorate Your Inner World Too.

Last few days you have spent days refurbishing and decorating your home shop and offices.

Wouldn’t it be better now to decorate our soul and mind with those positive thoughts which inspire us for success in life and motivate us for good things in life.

1. Believe in yourself by counting and concentrating on your accomplishments.

2. Stay positive by focusing on your strengths and find ways to overcome your weaknesses.

3.Love yourself and love your entity. This will give you immense strength and self trust in handling your issues.

4.If you feel bitterness for someone’s behavior towards you, then, just forgive him for your own sake, and bless him for his betterment. This will help you get rid of the bitterness that is inside you for him ,and is gradually poisoning you too. In this way you can feel light fresh and detoxed.

Come, Let us kindle a lamp of compassion and forgiveness, of purity and piousness, inside us, to enlighten our heart, soul and mind and make the celebration of this Diwali a truly physical spiritual success.

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Awaiting for your comments for above lessons of life from Diwali festival!

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How To Be Creative.

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An Interesting Story About Creativity.

Shortly after partition of India, the city of Chandigarh was under construction by the French architect Le Corbusier. The city was to become joint seat for the capitals of two north Indian states Punjab and Haryana.

A man named Nekchand Saini gets a job as a road inspector in the city. Every evening instead of going home after work , he would reach a deserted part of woods near the Lake Sukhna. This forested part was government land. Nekchand cleared a part of the forest and gathered here bangles, bottles, broken plates, broken bathroom fittings and electrical fittings and other materials from garbage dumps. He used them to create sculptors of kings, queens, dancers, musicians, snake charmers horses and birds among other things. He kept creating all this , without respite, for 18 long years and turned heaps of garbage into a beautiful garden, which is now widely known as “Rock Garden.”

Thus creativity is in man’s thought.

What Is This Thing Called Creativity.

“Creativity is a phenomenon whereby something somehow new and somehow valuable is formed. The created item may be intangible or physical object.” (Wikipedia)

When we participate in some creative activity time stands still, mind is freed up, and a screen appears in mind where our subconscious thoughts are about to get embossed upon. This is when we find answers to many of our questions and solutions to our situations.

Every creation demands passion and total surrenderĀ  in its pursuit. It leaves a writer, painter, sculptor, programmer, engineer, or whatever as a creator he is; completely lost in this process called “creation.”

A creation happens when whole heart, soul and mind begin to sing and dance for it. It is a state of complete freedom – physically and mentally. Conscious mind hinders creativity. Pablo Picasso has put it in another way when he says, “the chief enemy of creativity is good sense.” And surely there would be such rythmic conditioning of heart, mind and soul when Archimedes found his ‘Eureka moment’, Newton found his ‘Theory Of Gravity’ and Michelangelo turned stones in to ‘flesh’ and imbued his painted figures with’ energy.’

It is really hard for a sculptor to bring the perfect figure out of the block into which it is potentially present. ButĀ  by sinking and loosing himself completely in his work he precipitates his thoughts in to a tangible and physical entity. Stepping into a creative work is almost like stepping into your bliss.

How To Be Creative.

  • Start Writing Your Mind.

Tony Morrison says, “You sit calm on your chair and words begin wandering in your mind.” A fresh sheet of paper, pencil, and calm mind will produce such a work ,that will amaze you that you have created this! Additionally you will feel, got ridden of your worries, for the entire session of your writing. What do you say, isn’t it healing too?

  • Discover New Places.

Novel Laureate Rabindra Nath Tagore used to move to forests and mountains to reenergize himself. It is said that moving to new places and new environments helps increase the intellectual longevity and cognitive flexibility. Cognitive flexibility is the mind’s ability to jump between different ideas, a key component of creativity. New sounds, smells, and engaging with local population and their culture, revitalize the mind and gives substantial boost to creativity.

  • Preserve Child In You.

Children are willing to go in any direction with their creativity. Acquire this mentality. This will keep you easy and flexible in your attitude towards accepting variety of tasks in a stride.

  • Preserve Sense Of Humor And Have Fun.

A laugh can bring you closer to the moments of inspiration and creativity. Albert Einstein once said, “Creativity is intelligence having fun.” Having fun makes you relaxed of your routine tiredness and lets the creativity flow.

  • Take Regular Exercises.

Taking exercises regularly improves your thought spectrum, and makes you zealous and full of enthusiasm towards your work.

  • Listen To Music.

Music calms your nerves. Ambient music can help you bring closer to a mindset, full of creative ideas. The famous dramatist of English literature George Bernard Shaw was very much influenced with Opera music which he inherited from his mother. He used to introduce subjects in a manner, like a composer brings in one melody after another and soon the various subjects are woven together; which interests the viewers intellectually and pleases them artistically. Thus his love for music vigorously contributed to add flavour to his works and creation.

  • Keep In Touch With Creative People.

Having a good circle of creative people enhances your brain muscles, keeps them young, boosts vocabulary and overall cognitive ability.

So, keep learning , stay positive and be creative!